My toddler has learnt to speak. One of the things that fascinates me, is his ability to state what he wants. He is very clear on what he says. Nothing left to imagination. I am hurt on my foot, I want you to blow there. I want to touch your nose.... I want you to place your hand under my head and let me sleep. I want that red coloured toy that you hid from me. Very precise, clear instructions on the need.
Yet, as adults communication or lack thereof is one of the most common issues leading to conflict. You say something, you mean something else. Or you do not say anything and you mean a lot.
I wonder at what point do we loose the skill to state what we want. Is that a part of growing up, a defence mechanism to not get hurt? I told my parents that I want videogame for my birthday, they didn't get it, so I won't tell anymore what I want. I can't tell my boyfriend how much I miss him, as he would think I am needy. I would struggle and quit my job, but won't tell my boss that I need a better raise/ quality of life as he wouldn't understand anyway.
Wouldn't it be easier, if adults could retain the art that the God blessed us with as kids.
As adults we become wily and fear rejection,hurt or being mistaken.We tend to become careful in our expression.Some amount of restraint is necessary and adults should not speak whatever comes ti mind like children.But clarity is needed.
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