I have heard and read ample number of times that Indian society is a good society... We respect family and elders. We have strong belief in the institution of marriage and we are at a moral high-ground.
On the other hand, we say western society is very individualistic. There are no joint-families, children leave home at 14-15 and crave independence.
By theory, we are right... This is an ideal world, where people care for their elders. Institution of marriage or commitment remains valid. People care for
their offspring, give them the right moral education... This is indeed one kind of Utopia.
But, is it achievable? Then why do we have so many cases of molestation, child trafficking and rapes in India?
Is our society too restrictive and expects too much from a mere mortal?
We have too many rights and wrongs, too many taboos and things not to be shared. We believe, it is improper to drink in front of your parents. That you
shouldn't let your elders know if you smoke. That pre-marital sex is a sin. That marriages are forever. And these topics are beyond discussion.
We believe if you don't tell kids about birds and bees, they won't know.
That celebacy and proper conduct is guranteed till you wed them off... and it is not just possible, but unquestionable... in this world of information.
And then we are as startled as a deer in spotlight, when we hear that a guy closeby raped his classmate.
On closely looking and experiencing the bad, western world, I get more drawn to it. The world of openeness. You are allowed to do all that you want, as long as you don't hurt anyone. You know where your limits are and you are allowed to tread as far as them.Isn't it better to allow pre-marital sex than the rape statistics boasting a "moral" society?
What is wrong in skimpily clad women, if you are sure you have sane men?
Isn't it better to be divorced and start life afresh than living a suffocating marriage?
What is wrong in independence and individualism, if you are sure everyone is taken care of?
In my ideal world, there would be far fewer rules, but far stricter punishments. Do whatever, you want to YOURSELF.. smoke, drink, dope, suicide... don't as
much as dare hurt anyone.